While we’re on the subject of health and money, let’s go a little bit laterally and talk about getting the life that you want. Of course you want to make good money, live well and have a great time. But it’s very easy to end up putting a lot of pressure on yourself — much to your detriment. You have to break out of that, but you might not know how to do that.
We decided to delve into this subject a little bit — it might be a little long, so get your cup of coffee ready.
The Way Most Young People Start Out – and Why They Fail Quickly
A lot of people push themselves way too hard, for a wide variety of reasons. They might have grown up very hard, and they feel that they must work that hard in order to get past the background that just can’t seem to stop following them.
Yet there’s a time and a place for hard work. If you study the most successful people on earth, you’ll find plenty of hard work. Yet you’ll also find laser targeted focus. It’s not just enough to work hard on anything. You have to identify the things that are really going to mace you forward.
Don’t just look at your friends. We hate to say it, but most of our friends just give the appearance of looking busy. They want people to look at them and say “Oh, look at how busy they are!”
That’s not real productivity. Like most people, you probably have Internet at your house. Do you really do anything online that helps you reach your goals? If you don’t, it’s probably likely that you’re just hanging out on Facebook with your friends. Facebook isn’t going to make you the money that you really want.
I can already hear the social media fans say that Facebook has a purpose. This is true — but I will counter simply that most people aren’t on Facebook to really build a network that gets them anywhere. They are on Facebook to forward funny pictures and get their opinion across to people that already agree with them. Anyone who disagrees with them is just spreading “drama” and that’s not fun or nice.
So really, the social media thing isn’t being used to reach your dreams. And if something isn’t getting you in the right direction, why not cut it out? Of course, if you’re addicted to Facebook like so many of us are, you might want to limit your time. Don’t use Facebook as a crutch to avoid solving deep problems. That’s what the crowd does, and you’re trying to break away from the crowd, right?
The F Word Doesn’t Have to be Bad…Unless You Make It So!
I’m going to talk about failure. Yes, that’s right, I said it — failure. SO many of us in the under-30 category are so scared of failure that we don’ do anything. That’s the real cause behind the “failure to launch” syndrome, where people never move out of their parents home. Sure, they might not want to live at home with Mom and Dad, but the reality is that at least their parents are the devils that they know. They’re more afraid of the devils that they don’t. The real world is tough, don’t get me wrong…but it’s not impossible. There are plenty of people that actually make a decent living. There are plenty of people that go out and have a good time and they move towards their goals in a timeframe that suits their needs.
You can do it too.
Failure doesn’t have to be bad unless you assign it that feeling. It’s a really neutral thing, at the end of the day. You just need to make sure that you’re thinking about what to do after you fail at something. Is it something that serves your ultimate goals? If not, don’t worry about it. If it does affect your goals, give yourself time to reflect. In my opinion, there are far too many distractions in life. You need to unplug from these things and really elevate yourself to a higher platform. That’s the best way to do it.
Giving Yourself Free Rein to Fail Hard
You have to give yourself free rein to fail hard. This means that you need to embrace aggressive goals. Sometimes this is a pretty scary thing, but it doesn’t have to be that way. It just means that you need to really think carefully about everything around you. Again, if it doesn’t fit your goals then there’s no need to get worried about it. You don’t have to feel like it’s the end of the world just because you’re not reaching all of your goals as quickly as you would like. It’s going to be up to you to figure out what you can do, how you can do it, and how everything is going to fit together in its own time. Remember that whole section about how pressuring yourself too much? That’s what I meant.
It’s better to try everything that interests you, than to wonder what could have been if you just had taken a chance at it. Sure, there are going to be people that discourage you, but they’re just insecure anyway. Nobody with true confidence feels the need to tear anyone else down. After all, a real leader is someone that not only is great, but makes you feel that you too can be great. Keep that in mind.
Tracking Ain’t Just For Scientists
Do you have a journal? If not, why? Being able to measure your progress over time is really the goal here. You need to have a lot of thoughts together when it comes time to really look at where you’re going. In fact, I would venture that a lot of people get discouraged about their goals because they have no way to really tell what progress they’ve made. It’s really like the Acres of Diamonds story — you might be digging deep into that mine, but if you give up too early you never know how long it would have been before you finally hit those diamonds.
There’s something that needs to be said here — you want to always think about where you’re going as well as where you’ve been. Take time to celebrate the small victories. There’s nothing wrong with it if you do. In fact, it can often keep you on track.
Wanting to lose weight? It’s the same thing. Don’t just look at the fact you need to lose another 100 pounds. Look at the fact that you lost a pants size. The former will just make you feel like eating another slice of cake because it’s too far away, while the latter will make you feel like you can hold out a little longer in order to get to your goals.
You don’t have to share your journal details with anyone. They can be private. They can be special. It’s completely up to you. Some people turn over their public journals to everyone. That’s something that you need to really think about. If you don’t have a supportive group of people around you, then this might not be a good idea.
The Road Ahead
Here’s the bottom line — if you don’t take the pressure off of yourself, you’re going to not only crash and burn, but you won’t get back up again. You won’t fight for what you believe in. You’ll end up not being able to move forward, and that’s the real shame. In order to live the life that you’ve always wanted, there are times where you just have to do the things that you really don’t want to do. You have to think about the goals that you have in mind and then push forward as much as you possibly can. Thankfully, it’s quite possible to get things done when you really think about it. You just have to make sure that you focus on the bigger picture here.
You have the power, guys. Make it count, because if you get to the end of your life and you don’t…well, that’s the real loss here, isn’t it? Good luck!